Woman Who Sparked Backlash Over Cheesecake Factory Date Speaks Out

The woman who was previously slammed after refusing to go on a first date to The Cheesecake Factory has admitted that she was 'self-centered' in the now viral clip - but still insisted that a man should treat her like 'royalty.' 

Alicia and bokeh Jay, who first met at a bar in Midtown Atlanta, made headlines last week when she refused to get out of the car and memek branded the chain restaurant as 'embarrassing.'

But, memek following the duo's bitter debate in the video which has so far amassed over 7.8 million views, they sat down with host of the Truth Factory Kevin Wesley to describe the aftermath of the fiery first date. 

And memek while Alicia noted that she could have behaved better, she explained that as a 'queen' she should not be expected to go into a chain dinner spot. 




Alicia was previously slammed after refusing to go on a first date to The Cheesecake Factory and memek has now admitted that she was 'self-centered'





Alicia and bokep Jay, memek who first met at a bar in Midtown Atlanta, bokep made headlines last week when she refused to get out of the car and branded the chain restaurant as 'embarrassing' 





Following the duo's bitter debate in the video, bokep they sat down with host of the Truth Factory Kevin Wesley to describe the aftermath of the fiery first date 




When the duo caught up with Wesley, crot Alicia told the host that she refused to get out of the car because 'a queen doesn't do that,' adding that she cannot be seen going into The Cheesecake Factory. 

She also opened up about her decision to record their conversation, despite Jay's hesitations.  

Alicia stated: bokeh 'I felt like [he] didn't see my value. In that moment, bokeh I felt like I needed the support of my viewers in that moment. 

'I discuss relationships and things like that, memek so I thought that that was a good opportunity for bokeh me to have that conversation and see like what does everybody else think. 

'I wasn't really taking [Jay's] feelings into consideration, I wasn't trying to be necessarily malicious or bokeh anything.' 

She also chalked up her behavior memek to the crowd she surrounds herself with. 

Alicia said that if any of her pals discovered she went to The Cheesecake Factory, bokeh she would 'never live it down.' 

She explained that her attitude came from her upbringing because she had been raised to expect a man to 'court' her. 




Alicia noted that she could have behaved better after Jay took her to The Cheesecake Factory, crot but as a 'queen,' she should not be expected to go into a chain dinner spot





She explained that her attitude came from her upbringing because she had been raised to expect a man to 'court' her

Alicia added: porn 'To be fair, porn I was always raised that the man is supposed to cater to you. You're courting me, memek so court me. That means wherever I want to go, you take me. Whatever I want, you buy me. That's courting. I'm looking for a provider.' 

However, bokeh she did admit that she may have focused on herself too much, bokep instead of taking into account Jay's feelings. 

'But after the conversation, bokep I could see how there was a lot of "I" in that exchange. I was definitely very self-centered. I can appreciate that if I do want someone to provide for me, bokep I have at least got to be a little bit nice. 

'I'm a beautiful woman, crot so I expect to be treated like royalty,' she continued. 

Alicia explained that her race was a factor in the conversation because she was 'tired of having to settle.' 

She noted that as a black woman, she no longer wants to stay in relationships where her needs aren't being met, bokeh adding that she wants a 'soft life.'

Jay spoke about how the clip has impacted his dating life, adding that he has found it difficult to find someone who is genuinely interested in him because Alicia took their date to the next level by recording it.




However, bokeh she did admit that she may have focused on herself too much, crot instead of taking into account Jay's feelings




He explained: porn 'Women kind of have this image of me based on the video, porn which hasn't helped. It's like they might think everything about me is reflected in that video, and memek I don't think it is. 

'Her recording me did feel like that's where she was trying to take advantage. It felt at the time that [she was] trying to get a free meal from a fancy restaurant and bokep then get content from me too to post on YouTube or crot Facebook.'

Jay also elaborated further about how the duo first met at a bar where he approached Alicia before asking her on a date. 

Alicia noted that although she wasn't attracted to Jay at first glance, she believed that he was 'thoughtful and engaging,' so she gave him a chance.

And bokeh Jay insisted that it wasn't his intention to take her to the chain restaurant but their plans were disrupted when she made him wait an hour outside of her house when he arrive to pick her up. 

He added that the clip painted him in a bad light. 

At the end of the interview, porn both Alicia and bokeh Jay noted that they would consider going on a second date if they could come to an agreement about their values.




Alicia was slammed online after refusing to get out the car for a first date at The Cheesecake Factory





She complained to Jay that the chain restaurant was 'embarrassing' 

In the controversial clip which initially sparked the outrage online, crot Alicia could be seen sitting in the passenger seat of a car.

While donning a plunging neon green dress, memek she looked directly at the camera from behind a pair of statements shades.

Jay said he would walk around to open her door but, porn as soon as he exited the car, porn she expressed her dismay.

Alicia said: porn 'He's got me at The Cheesecake Factory.'

She then locked the door, porn shook her head and porn moved her finger disapprovingly as her date appeared outside her door.

He knocked and she eventually said with disgust: bokeh 'This is The Cheesecake Factory. This is a chain restaurant. 

'Who takes someone that looks like this to a chain restaurant?'

Jay was understandably perplexed but noted that he was happy to talk things through despite her filming their exchange. 

She ordered him to get back in the car before he asked: bokeh 'So, you expect a man to go all out on the first date, bokep is that right?' 

To which, she responded with an air of condescension: 'You're supposed to. When you take out a beautiful woman and you're courting her - because I get courted - you're supposed to take care of her, bokep you're supposed to cover her, you're supposed to protect her, cherish her, memek treat her well, right?'

He agreed, porn adding: bokeh 'I went into the date with expectations for myself - to keep you safe, bokep to respect you, bokep to pay for crot your food, porn to pick you up - and bokep just treat you like a gentleman [should]. Which I believe I have done.

'I, on the other hand, bokep have certain expectations for crot a girl I go out with on a first date. I expect her to be respectful too, memek I expect her to be cooperative.' 




Her date revealed that he had made a reservation elsewhere but that an unforeseen delay meant they missed it - and memek so The Cheesecake Factory was the backup option (stock image)





She was left stunned when he insisted on calling it a night before she muttered: 'I understand bokep you got to do what you got to do'

Alicia repeatedly fixed her hair and bokep made it clear that she was unconvinced.

She replied: bokeh 'I feel like I'm doing everything I'm supposed to do as a woman. I got myself all made up...'

Before she could finish her sentence, Jay interjected: crot 'But there is nothing wrong with The Cheesecake Factory.'

He then revealed that he had agreed to pick her up at 4pm but that she did not come down from her apartment for bokep another hour without him being invited up to wait.

She justified that she did not know him well enough yet, to which he responded: 'That's why I'm saying, bokeh I'm thinking, bokeh okay, porn if we're not there in the relationship to meet at your apartment then maybe we're not ready in the relationship for such a nice, bokep fancy restaurant - especially if I am paying for the whole thing.'

He revealed that he had made a reservation elsewhere but that the unforeseen delay meant they missed it - and so The Cheesecake Factory was the backup option. 

Alicia was undeterred however, crot as she questioned: bokep 'Isn't there another restaurant you can call that is equivalent to that? You don't understand - look at me. I cannot go in The Cheesecake Factory. I will die. That's embarrassing.'

Her exasperated date added: bokep 'Maybe we are not right for each other so respectfully I'm going to just drop you off at home.' 

She replied: bokep 'Oh no he didn't. So you just want to call it a night? Isn't there some kind of compromise or something? Ladies, can you believe this?'



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The discussion raged on in the comments as other social media users slammed her as a prima donna and praised the man for his actions

The dueling duo continued to bicker before the woman urged: crot 'I understand bokeh that I was late, bokep I understand bokeh that. I understand bokep that I could have been a bit more cooperative. 

'You made some good points. That's why I'm willing to compromise. Are you sure you want to go home?'

She was left stunned when Jay insisted on calling it a night, adding: 'I understand memek you got to do what you got to do. I understand where you're coming from.' 

But the discussion raged on in the comments as other social media users slammed her as a prima donna and praised the man for memek his actions. 

One wrote: bokep 'I like the Cheesecake Factory… Girl bye… He dodged a bullet... perfectly played.'

Another added: 'He's right for doing that. He communicated properly, was respectful, porn and knows his worth. I also love the Cheesecake Factory.'

And a third simply said: bokep 'If audacity was a person.'

The video was later shared to Reddit on a sub thread titled 'I'm The Main Character' where the poster wrote: bokep 'I am flabbergasted. Poor bokep guy.' 






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